Meg, Jon, and Jake Abhau at the DC Pride
Pride events coming up!
July 31 – August 3
My faith in humanity was renewed and I feel like the world CAN be a better place for my son
by Meg Abhau
Note: The parents of a 13-year-old gay son, Meg and Jake Abhau recently launched a group for LGBT Mormons, families, and friends in Raleigh, North Carolina.
My family and I had the pleasure of marching in the DC Pride Parade this last weekend and it changed my soul.
The people lining the streets were cheering and thanking us for being there! The love that was exchanged when you looked into someone’s eyes was palpable. I was so taken aback by how much love I felt for them and humbled by the love sent back our way. The spirit was so strong and overwhelming. With the biggest smile on my face, my equal sign held high and my family by my side, I marched for equality. This felt like the first real thing I could do since my son came out 3 months ago. I could hug people in the crowd and tell them I loved them. I could give high fives all around with achy cheeks from smiling so big. Marching sends a clear message: “I am here, standing with you, my brothers and sisters.”
One highlight for this weekend was talking with people right before the parade who were marching with Mormons for Equality. I did not know any of the marchers other than Randall Thacker, my family, and the two friends I invited. Hearing their stories, their struggles, and their love was both inspiring and heartbreaking. I came away from the parade with one message. Love. It is all about love. Love one another.
Another highlight was the social right after the parade. We were able to walk to a lovely place and have amazing food and keep the high of the day’s events going. The love carried into that room and I had the time of my life!
Lastly, and most sacred to me, was being in the Affirmation booth at the festival the next day. This is where my soul changed the most. In the parade, I was able to look into people’s eyes and share love. At the festival, I could talk with them and hear their story. I could say, “This is my husband and my 13-year-old son who just came out to us 3 months ago.” It opened up discussions that I might not have ever had. I heard some heartbreaking tales of families that just can’t accept their child. I heard a longing to go back to the church that was always their home. How they tried everything they could, with Herculean effort, to stay and push away their inner self. We shared hugs; real hugs that touch your soul. I was able to give them the reading material that I hoped would help. (James Brinton did an incredible job with the Affirmation booth) I met the most selfless and Christ-like people this weekend and it made me want to be a better person. My faith in humanity was renewed and I feel like the world CAN be a better place for my son, Jon.
I am blessed with an amazing son and a wonderful husband. Now I am blessed with new and incredible friends! I will cherish this moment in my life and carry it with me forever.